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2016 Goals (aka Aim, Shoot, Score!)

[Noun; ~ Pronunciation: /gohls/]

  • Definition: Looking back at the list of goals you set for the year that is about to end, to find you did very well. Also, realising that clear objectives are easier to handle than, say, vague resolutions.

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“The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals”
– Melody Beattie –

Okay, so I crossed one out and changed it into something else. I, the Queen of Perfectionisticism and normally fiercely against changing anything that’s written (in stone), say it was needed. Why? Because before I can move to another country I need to know what I want to do there. Hence, this causality caused me to rewrite one of my 2016 goals.

Which I then got to tick off, because I found out what  want to do! Yep. I want to help people rebuild their self-esteem, and I have taken steps to evolve in that direction. Namely, by enrolling for a course.

First things first, though. Let’s handle these targets one by one, starting with the completed ones!

Accomplished
  • Visit Canada
    Don’t you remember my photos?? D:
  • Find out what I want to do
    I want to become a life coach. Well, that’s the first step, what I really want is what I said above: help people rebuild their self-esteem. Makes sure they understand their own worth and believe in themselves.
  • Celebrate my 29th birthday
    As some of you might know my real 29th birthday was a huge let-down. My mother had pneumonia, I had the flu and my father had a cold. We spent my birthday at the doctor’s office instead of in a luxury spa (as I had wanted to). The only thing making me suffer a bit less was the promise I made myself: I’d celebrate my 29th in style on another date. It took me almost a year (my birthday is on Halloween and I finally got to the spa on September 9th this year), but I did it. A lovely, extremely relaxing day.
  • Take up running (hit 5k)
    I remember my first run on January 1st, 2016. I passed another runner and as I said “hi” she tried to high-five me, but that didn’t work out very well… Nevertheless, I kept putting on my running shoes and made myself go out at least once a week. Slowly I crept back to my old level (3.5-4k), then I exceeded it and now I can run 5k! JUST 5k, but still 🙂 I am keeping this up and am hoping to increase my endurance and distance even more in 2017.
  • Do Icelandic course (up to lesson 5)
    As you can see I altered this goal a little, because it was not possible to cram sixteen lessons into one year (trust me, the lessons are quite extensive). I simply didn’t have enough time, but I figured it must be possible to finish at least five of them, and I did! Ég er glað!
  • Win lottery
    Every year me and my mother each pay half of a New Year’s State Lottery Ticket and we never win a single cent. But this year we won €20! That’s €10 each! And you know, he who despises the small is not worthy of the great. Basically, I won something. And it was in a lottery, so… Check!
  • Enjoy myself
    I think the Canada trip alone gave me reason enough to tick this one off. I can’t remember the last time I had so much fun. Plus, I made lots of new friends and they made me realise there’s so much to enjoy in life!
Not accomplished
  • Write my story
    Sometimes you need to stop and go back a few steps before you can reach your ultimate goal. If I want to write my story, I now realise I need to start smaller: take the pressure off to make it “perfect” and get into the habit of writing fiction. Thus, one of my new goals for 2017 is to write at least three short stories. I think that’s easier to accomplish and it will pave the way for this story that’s been running around in my head for years.

This was my list of goals for 2016, and I am in the process of making a new one for the upcoming year. If you’re into trying this out, too, make sure your goals are clear and attainable. For instance, I could have put just “take up running”, but instead I quantified it by adding the “(hit 5k)”. After all, what does “take up running” mean? Go running once? Twice?  Now I had a clear objective to work towards. Nobody gets better from vague goals 😉

I wish you all a happy New Year and may all your goals be reached!


Do you have goals and/or resolutions for the new year?
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I thought this would be a nice one, so close before 2016 finds its ending and 2017 is to start.

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Pressure (aka Wanting To Shut My Brains Off)

[Noun; ~ Pronunciation: /presh-er/]

  • Definition: Trying to figure out what makes you feel gloomy around the holidays each year, only to find out it’s due to mostly the increase of pressure. Pressure to be kind, funny, loveable and, most importantly: the pressure to be happy.
“Courage is grace under pressure”
– Ernest Hemingway –

Every year around Christmas time I get a bit gloomy. In all honesty, I think it’s to do with many factors, such as the year coming to an end (I am not good with endings) and the thought that I am overloading on a wide range of different luxury foods while people on the other side of the planet are dying from hunger.

The end of December is here and it always catches me reflecting upon another year passed: have I reached my goals (which I’ll talk about in Thursday’s post), have I been a good person, what has happened, what have I learned?

And apart from all that, even if we don’t have snow and the winter so far has been very subtle, it’s cold outside. It’s not helping me to feel better. Instead, I go out less and stay in more, meaning I am more than ever trapped inside my own head.

Yesterday we went over to my eldest sister’s house for Christmas (the Dutch get TWO days of this holiday each year – *a very sarcastic hurray! is in order here*) and while in the car I decided to switch off my brains. I couldn’t take it any more, all the thoughts and the worries and the grumpiness. I had had it.

I bet even The Grinch would have become more depressed sitting next to me.

I managed to keep my head switched off until we went back home. Somehow, when there is nobody distracting you (by, say, climbing onto your back and screaming at the top of their lungs, trying to burst your eardrums while simultaneously attempting to remove your eyes from their sockets), it’s easier to fall back into meaningless staring and overthinking your life.

Which is a lovely little pun, because I never just think things over and over and over, I also wonder what would  happen if… So: overthinking it! I’ve almost made it into an art form by now, I suppose.

The bottom-line here is: I need a stop switch for my brains. Or maybe a stop switch for Christmas.

I have been feeling low and gloomy for almost the entire week, and only because of the holidays. The pressure to feel happy is so enormous, I can’t bear it. So instead I quickly put my hands up and retreat, feeling worse by the day.

I am happy Christmas is over. Now if only I can make it to the new year without any more crazy things happening, maybe I’ll get to start 2017 on a happy note.

But no pressure there, of course.


How was your holiday season thus far? And how do you deal with pressure?
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Hotsy-Totsy (aka Happy Holidays!)

[Adjective; ~ Pronunciation: /hot-see-tot-see/]

  • Definition: Wondering how far some people will go to make their Christmas celebrations perfect, and whether they are focusing on making everything hotsy-totsy or enjoying themselves even with a few flaws in their party arrangements.
hotsy_totsy“He who has not Christmas in his heart will never find it under a tree”
– Roy L. Smith –

Surprisingly, I always thought Christmas was about the birth of Jesus, peace on Earth and kindness for one another. But even when I was a little girl (think age five, six) I thought it strange that soldiers all over the world would put their guns down and be kind to each other, only to take up war again the next day. Why kill each other? If you can be good to someone for one day, surely you can continue that loving behaviour for a few days more, if not forever?

(Don’t blame me, it’s what our teacher told us what happened during Christmas. It just never made sense to me…)

Today I went to a store. Nothing spectacular, just a supermarket. And let me tell you this: if Christmas is all about peace on Earth, it’s definitely not about peace in supermarkets! Jeanie Mac, I had to practically fight a woman for a few tomatoes! WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS WORLD!?

I think a lot of people are losing it: the meaning of Christmas. Heck, maybe even the meaning of life! Because why only be good to each other once a year?

Humans in well-faring countries seem to care only about one thing in December: throwing the best, most hotsy-totsy Christmas party ever. With lots of food, over-paid presents, candy, a massive decorated tree, and even more food. Because imagine having no leftovers from Christmas. That’d be a sin.

Hotsy-totsy was the word of the day on Dictionary.com a few days ago. It’s a funny way of saying something is perfect. As you all know (or will learn right now) I am a perfectionist. I really am. I want everything better than good and preferably 110% over 100%.

But enjoying yourself is not something you can enforce. Neither is peace on Earth or being kind to one another. And surely you can’t make Jesus be born again, because that happened aeons ago!

Ergo, Christmas cannot be perfect. If you don’t believe me, simply enter any type of store and you’ll see I am right. So instead of focusing on food, maybe we could focus on what this season was originally about: love. Have a little respect for each other, be kind while enjoying yourself.

And do NOT attack innocent people who are putting tomatoes in a bag, thank you!

The thing is: there is no gauge to measure how well you did during the holiday season, there will be nobody knocking on your door to tell you your score for this year’s celebrations, as it is not a competition. And now that we know this, we can let it go, release the pressure and enjoy our time with friends and family.

I wish you all very happy and hotsy-totsy holidays! Be kind, be good, and be… Jesus? No, just be kind, that’ll do.

Happy Holidays everyone! 🙂

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So forget about getting back, instead focus your energy on yourself. Trust me, karma will take care of the rest 😉