“Virtue is an inner strength. It expands your nature” – John Bradshaw
Finding my biggest vice was much easier than stating my greatest virtue!
Maybe my virtue is being humble? Or obedient? Is it my relentlessness? Or my diversity?
If my most prominent vice is being unable to forget (and longing for revenge), what main virtue is on the opposite end of the scale, keeping balance? What is that one, huge, positive thing that I could never change about myself, not even if I really wanted to?
It is my generosity.
I cannot, never will walk away from someone who needs help if I can give it to them.
Sometimes I seem to stare right through someone’s facade and see their pain, their needs. And I long to make everything right for them. So I offer them a comfortable hug (like I gave my nephew in this story), a kind word to cheer them up (like that one check out girl) or an empty toilet roll to sink their tiny teeth in (I am not crazy – okay I am).
I pause my runs to help lost people find their way. I tell old men in stores they don’t have to weigh their goods as it’s done at the counter. For a shy friend, I ask what the buffet chef’s cooking. And I try to include people in conversations I am having with others, making them feel welcome and at home.
Once, during coaching class, someone said something and I laughed. I didn’t even realise I had until lunch, when my classmate asked me if I had been laughing at her. I was shocked, because I never laugh at people!
Laughing is my go-to reaction for a lot of things, though. I laugh when I am uncomfortable. I laugh when I do something stupid. I laugh when I am sad or hurt, to mask my emotions.
I also laugh when somebody tells a story I can relate to, because the only person I ever do laugh at is myself.
I never laugh at others, because everybody has their own tale to tell and who am I to judge?
One of the most important lessons I’ve learned studying sociology is to perceive the normal as extraordinary and the extraordinary as normal.
Everybody is different, yet we’re all human. Of course I have my preferences as to how to live my life and you have yours, but that’s okay. If we were all the same, how boring would life be?
My virtue, generosity, is a mixture of helpfulness, kindness and tolerance. I respect you and in return I ask you to respect me. Whatever our backgrounds, income, social standings, skin colour or anything else might be. I see beyond all that. My piercing stare is aimed at your heart, not your outside. And if there is anything bothering your heart, I will most likely offer my help, if I can.
Just know that if you abuse my kindness, I will never forget it.
And I will probably plot revenge… 😉
What is your most prominent virtue?
End of Heart Two
Vice and Virtue – Heart One appeared on Thursday, August 9