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Light a Candle


Let’s burn another candle as August rolls to an end, shall we?

I burn this one for my old client T., who appears to collect injuries and health issues throughout the months. Every time I speak to her she’s got something else wrong with her, the latest being kidney stones. So I hope the positive energy emanating from this this candle helps her to stay healthy.

My dad is another person I dedicate this month’s light to, as he turned 68 this August! I hope he has many years ahead of him still, and all in good health and spirit.

Lastly, Nature seems to ask for so many victims lately, what with all the earthquakes, floods and bridges collapsing. This one is for everyone who’s lost someone dear during the past month, due to any kind of accident or natural calamity. My thoughts are with you.


Who will you burn this month’s candle for?
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Wednesday Wisdom-Tile


Keep growing, keep learning, keep evolving. Keep changing.

Have a very wise, informative and brilliant Wednesday, everyone!

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Earworm of the Week


I recently got my hands on their last album and apart from it being great music for a run, it’s just great music. This song in particular doesn’t seem to want to escape my head…

I wish you all a positive week, with lots of good music and spirit!


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Letters to Life

Letters to Life (34)

“Death does not concern us, because as long as we exist, death is not here. And when it does come, we no longer exist” – Random Paper Wisdom (the actual quote is from Epicurus)


Dear Life,

Sometimes, when things don’t go my way, I wish I was dead.

I know this sounds shocking, but I’ve been like this since… forever. Easy as it is, I always blame it on my past depression, a period of you, Life, in which I would actually pray I’d not wake up the next morning.

Now, I sometimes find myself wishing it was all over when that feeling of being a total failure takes over my every thought, feeding my longing to die. Other times I feel so tired and not up for the job ahead, too exhausted to pick myself back up and move on. But I always do eventually, because I know I don’t really want to die. It’s just the backlash of my depression. And I know the day after I’ll be fine again, so it’s normal, right?

You work in funny ways, Life, but I think one of the most effective yet paradoxical ways you moved in last week, was giving me a panic attack while I was meditating.

For a few minutes I was convinced I was going to die. That my time had come. And instead of feeling at ease, as I always imagined I would, I panicked. Because I don’t want to leave you! Because there are so many things I want to do still, people I want to meet, places I want to visit. I am not ready to die!

Plus I’ve been picking up tips on how to commit the perfect murder, so that story has got to be written, surely?

When times get a little tough in my head and I tell myself I wish I was dead, I actually just wish you were easier, Life.

But I also know that if I keep breathing, everything will eventually be okay.

 

 

 


What keeps you going when things get tough?
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Vice and Virtue – Heart Two (of Two)

“Virtue is an inner strength. It expands your nature” – John Bradshaw


Finding my biggest vice was much easier than stating my greatest virtue!

Maybe my virtue is being humble? Or obedient? Is it my relentlessness? Or my diversity?

If my most prominent vice is being unable to forget (and longing for revenge), what main virtue is on the opposite end of the scale, keeping balance? What is that one, huge, positive thing that I could never change about myself, not even if I really wanted to?

It is my generosity.

I cannot, never will walk away from someone who needs help if I can give it to them.

Sometimes I seem to stare right through someone’s facade and see their pain, their needs. And I long to make everything right for them. So I offer them a comfortable hug (like I gave my nephew in this story), a kind word to cheer them up (like that one check out girl) or an empty toilet roll to sink their tiny teeth in (I am not crazy – okay I am).

I pause my runs to help lost people find their way. I tell old men in stores they don’t have to weigh their goods as it’s done at the counter. For a shy friend, I ask what the buffet chef’s cooking. And I try to include people in conversations I am having with others, making them feel welcome and at home.

Once, during coaching class, someone said something and I laughed. I didn’t even realise I had until lunch, when my classmate asked me if I had been laughing at her. I was shocked, because I never laugh at people!

Laughing is my go-to reaction for a lot of things, though. I laugh when I am uncomfortable. I laugh when I do something stupid. I laugh when I am sad or hurt, to mask my emotions.

I also laugh when somebody tells a story I can relate to, because the only person I ever do laugh at is myself.

I never laugh at others, because everybody has their own tale to tell and who am I to judge?

One of the most important lessons I’ve learned studying sociology is to perceive the normal as extraordinary and the extraordinary as normal.

Everybody is different, yet we’re all human. Of course I have my preferences as to how to live my life and you have yours, but that’s okay. If we were all the same, how boring would life be?

My virtue, generosity, is a mixture of helpfulness, kindness and tolerance. I respect you and in return I ask you to respect me. Whatever our backgrounds, income, social standings, skin colour or anything else might be. I see beyond all that. My piercing stare is aimed at your heart, not your outside. And if there is anything bothering your heart, I will most likely offer my help, if I can.

Just know that if you abuse my kindness, I will never forget it.

And I will probably plot revenge… 😉

What is your most prominent virtue?

End of Heart Two
Vice and Virtue – Heart One appeared on Thursday, August 9