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HEART TO POST – How Fear Can Help You To Focus

“The brain may be regarded as a kind of parasite of the organism, a pensioner, as it were, who dwells with the body”Arthur Schopenhauer

Sometimes I fear I have a parasite, while in fact I know I don’t.

Do you recognise this? Maybe not the parasite part (at least I hope you don’t!), but what about that panicky feeling that rises when your health might be in danger?

I know I overthink. I know I over-worry. I know I get crazy at times and let that craze carry me away a little too far.

I know ALL this, yet I can’t stop it from happening occasionally.

It’s the struggle between thinking and feeling. How do you know if your mind is right? And how do you know it isn’t?

As far as parasites go, there are empiric ways to verify if your mind is pulling one on you or not. And I am happy to say my gut feeling’s always been right about this one so far (“You got nada”).

But what about the more important matters in life?

For instance, I was excited when I decided to simmer my business-building activities and focus on boiling out my health issues first. But even if I currently put in minimal work regarding my coaching escapades they still eat away at me by telling my head what I do is not enough.

I know I made the right decision – you cannot take care of others if you don’t function properly yourself – but sometimes it feels as if I didn’t.

I guess the trick is to find a certain balance between your head and your heart in everything you do.

And when that doesn’t stop your inner critic from complaining, tell it you’ve possibly got a parasite. See how quickly that shuts the little sucker up 😉

I’m kidding! Parasites are not funny. But the fear of having one swiftly put my mind back into priority-mode.

First things first. Always.

My health comes first. Always.


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Heart to Post: January in Hindsight – About Setting Goals

“Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment” – Jim Roth

Did you know I am the Queen of Setting Goals? Not only is this where I flourish as a coach, it is also a personal quality of mine!

I believe there’s only one way forward as a human being, which is growth. And to grow you need to take action. And for you to take effective action, you need clear goals.

Here’s what your goals should be like, at the very least:

Be as concrete as possible. What is it that you want to accomplish?

Don’t be vague, make sure you know exactly when you’ve reached your goal.

Is the goal acceptable? Is what you’re going to have to put in to reach it, worth the effort? (Money, time, energy, etcetera).

Is your goal realistic? Will reaching this goal give you what you initially aimed for?

Set a start and deadline for reaching your goal. Make it tangible.

Quite a SMART method, right? 😉

After messing around with too many monthly goals in 2018, I decided to try something different for this year. Every month I work on one goal, something I’ve always wanted to try or think might help me develop as a person.

This post is about my January Goal and how I tackled it.


I have a client who does this every year, with no specific reason apart from tradition.

As December rolled to an end, I heard similar stories from other people doing the same. Mostly pensioners, but still.

I thought: why not join them? I always tell everyone I don’t need alcohol to have a good time, yet I consume a glass of wine weekly. I figured: what’s thirty-one days without that worth to me?

Well, a whole lot! I have a weak stomach in the literal sense and it had been playing up. That’s the holidays: I eat too much food despite knowing better and take the effects of that for granted.

On top of that came my increased feelings of stress and POOF! My stomach decided it was enough!

Alcohol is disastrous when you’re being pestered by out-of-control stomach acids, so offering my organ a much needed rest was the most important reason to sign up for this challenge.

I have to admit: I thought it would be more difficult. I traded in my Weekly Wine for a Timeless Tea and was equally happy with it. When going out for dinner I’d simply volunteer to be the designated driver and not drink a drop.

There were a few moments, though, in those thirty-one days that left me longing for liquor: stress is a huge stressor for alcohol usage in my case. I didn’t falter, though.

I only “failed” on two minor occasions, after munching on tiramisu. But the alcohol percentage in that dessert is so low I am happy to call this monthly goal a 100% success!

Did you set goals for 2019? What are they and how do you work towards them? Let me know in the comments!