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Share it Saturday

It’s just that special Saturday again! 😀 Today, feel free to share anything you want in the comments of this post! You want people to read your epic blog post? Share a link! You want everyone to know what you cooked up for dinner yesterday? Upload an image!

Anything you want, you can share with us today, simply by using the comment section!

The only rule is that whatever you want to share has to be something positive!

Today, I want to share that, as I was strolling through the city centre yesterday, feeling a bit blue (and very cold), I got so happy when I heard the first sounds of a draaiorgel (special type of organ). My grandmother loved this kind of music, so now every time I hear those organ sounds I immediately think of her. And I have to race after the owner to give him some money, in my grandmother’s honour.

So even if I felt a bit lonely at first, this music sure lifted my spirits!

(And I managed to do my shopping without buying stuff I don’t actually need! I know, impressive, right!?)

This wasn’t the draaiorgel I came across, but you get an idea of the sound it makes. And maybe you’ll recognise some of the songs it plays!

 

 

 


What would you like to share today? Leave a note in the comments! 🙂

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Planning versus Relaxing – Heart Two (of Two)

“Just living is not enough… One must have sunshine, freedom and a little flower”Hans Christian Andersen


I can’t relax. I try to, but my mind is constantly busy thinking. Of my plans for tomorrow. Of all the work I have to do. Of new ways to draw clients in.

And so on.

Even when I deliberately take time to lie down and meditate, I need a goal for my session: no goal = no success. I need to focus on something or my mind wanders. Quickly. Stealthily. And continuously.

And so on.

In my head, the word must seems to be a must: I use it in almost everything I tell myself. You must go to bed early tonight. You must do abs exercises before meditating. You must work out three times a week.

And so on.

This is daily business for me. You can probably imagine how every now and then the pressure I put on my own shoulders becomes too much and I put my feet down and just… stop.

On those days I transform into a cranky, rather recalcitrant and downright stubborn woman. On those days, I stuff myself with chocolate of all kinds (especially the kinds I must avoid), drink beverages that do nothing good for my body and that I planned to skip during the week, and my focus is all over the place, but not in the least on getting back on track.

And so on.

This Fall caught me off guard: not only did I find out I probably have Seasonal Affective Disorder, making me feel down because the sun is down a lot, too, I also feel a lot of self-inflicted pressure weighing me down.

Because here is a secret: even if I tell myself a task or chore is written down only so I won’t forget to do it, in reality my mind turns the task into a must: it is written down, black on white, so if I don’t do it I will be a failure.

And here is another secret: it’s all very nice to make daily to do lists, but what we usually forget about are the unexpected happenings in life: a sister who’s desperate for a babysitter. A cousin who needs something. A new client.

All wonderful things, but they only added to the pressure of the MUST DO-lists in my head.

Without planning I feel I would be lost. Going on a holiday without an itinerary? Not me! Going shopping without a list? I wouldn’t dream of it!

But life is not about planning every single minute of your day. Life is about enjoying yourself and what you do. Life is about breathing, taking in the World around you, and being at peace with yourself.

And so on.

So I threw out my endless list of chores and focus only on what I want to do rather than feel that I must. I schedule my remaining tasks so that each day leaves plenty of room for unexpected visits, meditation or fitness. Or all of them.

Or none.

Because life is about living. And you can’t plan that.

 

 

 


How could I not? 😉

How do you make sure you don’t get overwhelmed by tasks and chores?


End of Heart Two
Planning versus Relaxing – Heart One appeared on Thursday, November 22nd

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Earworm of the Week


With my Autumn Update comes new content. You need to change to stay refreshing. During the past… years I have posted many Earworms. They started as the endings of my Sunday Summaries and ended up becoming a solid section of my blog on their own.

But once again, it is time for a change. Therefore, this is the last Earworm of the Week!

Just want you to know 😉

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NOTE: I know the video is of low quality, but it still beats the “audio-only” clips.
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Earworm of the Week


I can only name two songs by Gabriella Cilmi, and I think with this one I’ve used them both as Earworms.

This song reminds me of the first time I visited Dublin, a city I quickly fell in love with, as it was seemingly played in a loop in a mall I visited there. Ah, the good old days 🙂

Have a very good week, everyone! And if you’re on a mission, too, I hope you reach your goals this week!


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Appreciation – Heart One (of Two)

“Appreciation is a wonderful thing: it makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well” – Voltaire

There is a reason why I don’t like Snow White: I find her very ungrateful.

Imagine you’re sweeping a house and tons of forest animals fly in to help you (some literally). Together, they take care of lots of hard work that otherwise would remain ahead of you. They don’t complain, they don’t slack off, they don’t even ask for any reward. They just come in and help you. Like that.

And what does Snow White do? She snarls at a poor innocent deer for using its tongue to clean plates:

Just exactly how did Snow imagine the deer to do the dishes? By staring at them intently with its big eyes? Stack them in a dishwasher with its hind legs? She should be happy the animal is giving it its best go. And sure, it’s not very hygienic (I surely wouldn’t want to eat from a licked-off plate), but even as a six-year-old I knew there was a better way to explain that to Mr. Deer.

Disney ended up ruining Snow White for me. I never liked her.

She also has a stupid dress.

This mental image is something that I’ve never gotten over. In fact, I call something “The Snow White Effect” when I refer to a situation in which someone has given it their all, yet they don’t receive appreciation for it.

And that’s what I’d like to discuss today: appreciation.

Without it, it’s easy to feel sad or maybe even resentful. When you get too much of it, it’s no good either, because the gratitude will feel fake and will most likely leave you unhappy. Perhaps even a bit suspicious: is the other person really in awe of you or are they merely pretending?

Sometimes, someone expects appreciation for what they did, but what they did was unwanted by you. How do you deal with that?

When I was a child and I had to make these gift-wrappings for Saint Nicholas (don’t even ask – they involve lots of cardboard, coloured papers, glue and creativity). My mother would secretly execute my ideas for me. You know, to save me time.

She never understood what she did wrong, yet I could never be appreciative: I had wanted to do all that work myself! Where my mother expected to see me grateful, I’d be cross with her instead.

So when to be appreciative? When someone has done something and the results are satisfying? Or when in doing something for you, someone has given it their all, but with negative results?

When do I want to be appreciated? I don’t need big words or gestures or constant approval. What I value most is a simple “thank you” when I’ve done my best for you, especially when I think you didn’t notice.

Those two words can brighten up everyone’s day and can motivate you to receive any feedback more positively and work harder.

A little appreciation goes a long way. Unfortunately for Mr. Deer, it probably came too late.

What do you want to be appreciated for?


End of Heart One
Appreciation – Heart Two appeared on Thursday, September 27th