Wednesday Wisdom-Tile


I thought this was a very good one, complimenting my recently discovered self-love, and sending out strong positive vibes!

Have a very good Wednesday, everyone!

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Earworm of the Week


I can only name two songs by Gabriella Cilmi, and I think with this one I’ve used them both as Earworms.

This song reminds me of the first time I visited Dublin, a city I quickly fell in love with, as it was seemingly played in a loop in a mall I visited there. Ah, the good old days 🙂

Have a very good week, everyone! And if you’re on a mission, too, I hope you reach your goals this week!


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Letters to Life (37)

“The best way is to keep forgiving, otherwise you’ll end up having no life yourself” – Random Paper Wisdom

Dear Life,

The most important person to forgive is yourself and this week, Life, you taught me to embrace myself with all my strengths and weaknesses and to finally, and fully, exclaim I love myself!

You and I both know this has been a tough battle to fight, Life, and we also know it’s never going to be over: trying to get over my minority complex and trust myself. See myself as fully worthy and act accordingly.

Being insecure and self-conscious is a personal recurring topic in you, Life. But every now and then you remind me I am okay, I am worthy of you and I deserve to be here.

This week, during another meditation session (seriously, if you don’t meditate already I can highly recommend it – it took me a while to get into it, but I keep having these amazing revelations!) I was finally able to appreciate, respect and truly LOVE myself, with all my talents. And, most importantly, with all my weaknesses.

I finally accepted myself for who I am. And it felt good!

I make mistakes, just like every other human being. I try my best every day, but sometimes it’s not enough. My mouth keeps having these moments in which it works faster than my mind, and more often than I’d like to admit people push me right down my personal pitfalls, bringing out my worst behaviour.

But I now know I can forgive myself for all that. Because I am not the only one who’s flaw-ful. Because I am not the only one who’s imperfect. Who’s not a robot but human.

But I am the only me. And I keep trying to improve myself, Life.

And I love myself for all that I am, both my good and my bad sides!

 

 

 


Do you love and forgive yourself?

Appreciation – Heart One (of Two)

“Appreciation is a wonderful thing: it makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well” – Voltaire

There is a reason why I don’t like Snow White: I find her very ungrateful.

Imagine you’re sweeping a house and tons of forest animals fly in to help you (some literally). Together, they take care of lots of hard work that otherwise would remain ahead of you. They don’t complain, they don’t slack off, they don’t even ask for any reward. They just come in and help you. Like that.

And what does Snow White do? She snarls at a poor innocent deer for using its tongue to clean plates:

Just exactly how did Snow imagine the deer to do the dishes? By staring at them intently with its big eyes? Stack them in a dishwasher with its hind legs? She should be happy the animal is giving it its best go. And sure, it’s not very hygienic (I surely wouldn’t want to eat from a licked-off plate), but even as a six-year-old I knew there was a better way to explain that to Mr. Deer.

Disney ended up ruining Snow White for me. I never liked her.

She also has a stupid dress.

This mental image is something that I’ve never gotten over. In fact, I call something “The Snow White Effect” when I refer to a situation in which someone has given it their all, yet they don’t receive appreciation for it.

And that’s what I’d like to discuss today: appreciation.

Without it, it’s easy to feel sad or maybe even resentful. When you get too much of it, it’s no good either, because the gratitude will feel fake and will most likely leave you unhappy. Perhaps even a bit suspicious: is the other person really in awe of you or are they merely pretending?

Sometimes, someone expects appreciation for what they did, but what they did was unwanted by you. How do you deal with that?

When I was a child and I had to make these gift-wrappings for Saint Nicholas (don’t even ask – they involve lots of cardboard, coloured papers, glue and creativity). My mother would secretly execute my ideas for me. You know, to save me time.

She never understood what she did wrong, yet I could never be appreciative: I had wanted to do all that work myself! Where my mother expected to see me grateful, I’d be cross with her instead.

So when to be appreciative? When someone has done something and the results are satisfying? Or when in doing something for you, someone has given it their all, but with negative results?

When do I want to be appreciated? I don’t need big words or gestures or constant approval. What I value most is a simple “thank you” when I’ve done my best for you, especially when I think you didn’t notice.

Those two words can brighten up everyone’s day and can motivate you to receive any feedback more positively and work harder.

A little appreciation goes a long way. Unfortunately for Mr. Deer, it probably came too late.

What do you want to be appreciated for?


End of Heart One
Appreciation – Heart Two will appear on Thursday, September 27th

Wednesday Wisdom-Tile


Let this image be an ode to a wonderful artist. And let her words inspire you to be more grateful, relaxed and happier today!

Happy Wednesday, everyone!

Earworm of the Week


All weekend, I was kind of bummed out that my Share It Saturday post didn’t encourage people to actually share something…

But then I heard this song on the radio and it made me feel better 🙂

I wish you all a very good Monday and rest of the week! May all your dreams come true, but only in a good way, of course!


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Letters to Life (36)

“He who wants to judge the present, must possess a sufficient past” – Random Paper Wisdom

Dear Life,

You really know how to keep throwing meaningful lessons at me, Life. Like this week, when you taught me why I dread visiting my Monday client.

I am always anxious to go there, because her mood determines her behaviour. Strongly.

When she is in a good mood, I can’t to do anything wrong and the praise keeps coming, like a beautiful waterfall flowing into a clear river.

But when her mood is bad, everything I do is wrong wrong WRONG and the waterfall consists of nothing but scolding and belittling remarks, polluting that same river.

Standing up for myself is futile: when she is like this, she’s very unreasonable and me trying to rationalise my actions or explain I didn’t do whatever she accused me of only makes her more angry.

So I take it all as if I am an emotionless rock, both her positive and negative expostulations, but she actually gets to me. I feel more and more reluctant to go there, never knowing what state I’ll find her in. Or what I can do to make her happy, being the people-pleaser that I am.

And that’s when you momentarily lifted your curtain of mysteries for me, Life. You showed I cannot ever please her! My emotional antennae to catch her vibe don’t work, so I can’t figure her out. I can’t read her like I do other people!

I have been so focused on pleasing her I got swallowed up in that process, while instead I should have been focussing on pleasing myself by doing my job with flair, like I always do. Have fun while cleaning, letting her remarks enter one ear and exit through the other.

Shift the attention from her mood swings to doing my job. And in doing so, refocus on pleasing myself.

 

 

 


Have you had any revelations last week? What were they?